Why did you go natural?I was on my healthy relaxed hair journey but I wanted to try and see how my natural hair without a relaxer would look like.
Another reason is I loved some afro hairstyles and was hoping I could achieve them with my own hair.
|Few days ago|
All the time I have been spending with my natural hair has made me realize quite a few things that I want to share...I am getting tired of it. Here are my reasons.
Reason #1: Shrinkage - I know they say you are supposed to love this but I DON'T. Why should I be scared of putting water on my hair? seriously this shrinkage issue is like the only problem that is making me frustrated with the natural hair journey. Yes I know there are ways to stretch your hair but AIN'T NOBODY GOT TIME FOR THAT. I am a student and I wash my hair 1-2 times a week because I have danruff but by the time I am done my hair shrinks up to 80%.
Ladies we all know how our hair makes us feel extra beautiful, so it's annoying that after washing my hair I end up looking a boy that hasn't had a hair cut for weeks. Some mornings I just want to wash and go to school. No time to braid, twists or curl in order to stretch it.
It's been over a year so I should have some length to show off. In conclusion, I hate shrinkage because I am so over the low-cut hair style.
|Immediately after washing. and it shrinks even more when its finally dry|
Reason #2: The time it takes to style my hair- all those braid outs/twists out and bantu knots isn't magic, it takes time and effort. I also did finger coils on my hair earlier today...took hours!!!
Reason #3: Combing my hair- I don't have full/thick hair and my hair isn't that stubborn but I dare not comb my hair while its dry. Water is a your best friend as a natural girl but we all know what happens when water is in my hair (shrinkage)
So those are my frustrations. To be honest #2 & #3 is no biggie for me cos I feel like they are normal and regular things that should be done like cooking, taking a bath, caring for your skin and all that jazz. My main and should I say only problem is shrinkage. I love my kinky hair cos it enables me to get my favorite hair style, which is the plain old Afro but I hate that I need to do a blow out to get that look.
Now that I have shared the bad, let me share the good and reasons why I love about my natural hair
Reason #1. It's unique: Living in Asia, there aren't many blacks as compared to other continents ( I could be wrong, I just assumed that..lool) but the uniqueness of my fro makes me happy to be African. I get compliments, lots of questions and lord, the stares..loool it's crazy. Also some people put their hands in my hair which I don't mind but only a few people do that cos you know never to touch my hair if you don't want trouble.
|Someone once told me I reminded him of her because of my fro ;)|
Reason #3. I represent: Now I know the kind of hair I have doesn't make me "more African" but we all know straight hair is mostly seen as the only good/pretty hair. Kinky hair is often viewed as ugly, unkempt, and unmanageable. I mentioned earlier that I get compliments but the truth is I have also gotten some not so nice comments like - "you look better with straight hair" "you look like you were electrocuted", "your hair is standing" and bad stares...lool yes there are good and bad stares.
I have had to explain to a few of my classmates that this is how my hair grows out of my head.
Long story short, I am currently frustrated and tired of my natural hair. I don't want put a relaxer in it....yet, but I want to try something that would strectch my hair out. I have searched on blogs/youtube and my choices at the moment are treatments using natural ingredients (ex,Coconut milk) and henna.
If they don't work and I still can't accept and love my shrinkage, I might just try a texturizer or even go back to a relaxer. Just kidding
So that's it guys. Please comment with suggestions on things that can could work for my hair.
Thanks for reading and stopping by.